Over the years as I interact with people who find comfort in emptying themselves and their stories to me, I developed the habit of apologising to them for what they have been through. You will often hear me say “I am sorry”… not everyone is used to hearing that you know as they might think it isn’t my fault, but guess what I do it anyway because it might help to fill a void 😉. Some have longed for this but never got it…so I stand in the gap to look for ways we can fill this void together. I apologise for their hurts, pains, frustrations and so on. I’m not apologising because I caused them to go through it, but rather I apologise to portray empathy, understanding and compassion.

Mental health and suicide rates has risen amongst young people over the years. It is shocking to hear young people dieing of heart attack, high blood pressure and so many other heart conditions due to stress, pressure and many other things they experience from their home and society. Alot of them are lured into toxic relationships, terrorism, drugs and crime and so on in their quest to seek for unconditional love and acceptance. Should this be allowed to continue? Should we continue to loose them to those who will take advantage of them by showing them love which isn’t genuine?

Dear parents, it is OK to apologise to your children if you have wronged or hurt them mistakenly or have mistakenly broken their trust and believe in you…this isn’t weakness but a strength. It teaches the children to take accountability and responsibility for their actions too as they learn from you… it also builds a stronger bond between you and the children. As children grow older, the need for effective communication and listening is very important. I mean the need to listen to them from a place of understanding (that is, I am listening to you to understand from your perspective, because you can help effectively if only you understand their problem from how they see it).

Not only newborn baby need love, every child whether baby, toddler, children, teenager, young adult or even adult need that unconditional bond and love too to help strengthen their confidence in themselves as they explore the world around them. Young people need that unconditional love and support to help boost their self-awareness, help them make right decisions, helps them recognise when they are treated right or wrong, helps them know when to walk away from a wrong environment and relationships. Let me stop here so you have time to reflect on this as a parent 😊